Grieving why can i cry

Wow I felt I was the only one, my wife's dad died last Christmas and I cried with her, he was a good man, but even though I love my dad so much when he passed last week I'm in shock as he was a strong fit man an lovely person , I'm very sad obviously but haven't cried yet?

What's going on?? I love this man , is something wrong with me?? One of my best friends passed away on friday and i havent cried yet. I feel bad as everyone around me in really sad and in despair.

I phase out a bit from time to time and have been getting headaches other then that ive been sleeping really well and been able to carry on with my other normal daily routines. Im just waiting for this sudden big cry but nothing seems to be coming. Part of me thought i was in-denial but ive been very open with how ive been feeling and her 5 year battle has come to an end, she was so full of life Ive never griefed so well before. AND i adored her! I am so glad I came across this group.

My mum passed on the 14th of January, I was with her as she took her last breath. She had been battling brain cancer since Feb which then spread to her spine, bowel and nerve endings. I cried the night she died and the next day and at her funeral. I haven't cried since. My two sisters are broken hearted, inconsolable at times. Whereas I went back to work a week after the funeral.

I felt like I haven't grieved and am waiting on a wave of grief to hit me. My sisters are surprised that I'm fine and life is back to normal. I feel I had to get back to normality, I have two young children and hubby works shift. So to get back to school runs etc. After reading the above posts, I don't feel guilty about getting back to normal. Yes I do miss my mum, she was too young to die, she had only retired from work and her and my dad had plans.

I miss not being able to ring her for a chat and I miss meeting her for a coffee at the weekends. We are all lost without her. My father died from cancer at home in I was his primary carer.

It was very traumatic very different from my current situation caring for my mother. In I was running a conference and, walking down to the evening event, one of the sponsors asked me why I hadn't been at the event the previous year. I explained "my father died" but before I finished the sentence I broke down completely.

A friend took me aside and sat with me. I only later realised conciously that it was exactly the one year anniversary. But I think there I was crying for my own trauma of the process, not for my loss. I was like you when my mom died, when i first found out and saw her, i didn't cry, i still felt sad but i think my brain was telling me i should be positive and that she's still somewhere around me and i think that's because of the shock or because it doesn't really feel like they're gone.

The pain gets worse with time because you think about all the time that passed and they weren't there with you but again with time you start to get used to it and kind of accept it? But someone once said grief is not a feeling, it is a neighbourhood and thats the best i can explain this grief you're about to experience. I wish you the best. My dad passed away a month ago and I feel the same.

I cried the day he passed away and the day after then nothing until last week and now nothing again. It makes you feel guilty because you question it so much, what does it mean that you haven't cried? Three weeks later, my Uncle Randy died out of nowhere of a heart attack.

This loss too, doubled me over and rendered me completely unable to do much of anything. As a freelancer I was able to take as much time off as I needed, but because I felt it could be potentially harmful to my career and finances to just go off the grid, I took just a couple days and then flung myself right back into the hustle.

I managed, but honestly I think I did OK because, although I was close to my loved ones who passed, our lives were not inextricably woven together. What would I have done in the wake of a more severe loss? More pointedly: How would I have even been able to grieve and be productive at the same time? Shatavia Alexander Thomas, a therapist in Arizona.

For our own health, we shouldn't stop or delay grieving. But I do find that when my clients are honest about what is going on in their lives, the healing process can truly begin.

Grief is impossible to plan for, and like a wild wind, it can take us in so many emotional directions. But we truly can benefit from carving out little windows of time to grieve amid our busy days. This site complies with the HONcode standard for trustworthy health information: verify here. This content does not have an English version.

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